We live together, we work together, Watson. When it comes to cases, there is no his or hers; there is partnership. I assist you, you assist me.
Can I just say how happy I am that there’s no sexual tension between these two, that they are partners and friends and there’s no “will they won’t they” which makes it really feel excellent in terms of crime procedural /puzzle of the week / drama that’s not about the two main character’s relationship? Really, it’s one of my favourite parts of the show, the fact that a man and a woman are equals, partners, and not at all interested in each other romantically. It’s a novel concept in TV with two leads of different genders.
Sherlock doesn’t see Joan as an underling. He sees her grow as an investigator and appreciates her skills. Joan is not a second to Sherlock. She is learning from him but is very quickly holding her own, she’s not looking for his validation and instead feels accomplishment in her own successes.
They are friends. They have personal issues and they work through them. They get on each others’ nerves at times but it’s never that trite, “you annoy me but I’m attracted to you” dance that’s so common in other shows. The drama comes from relationships outside of the Watson/Holmes duo and that makes for good stories because you have one who’s personally involved and the other who can act as a sounding board and voice of reason.
Not being “that guy” isn’t enough. It’s on men to end the culture of rape threats and sexual harassment in geek circles.
Another awesome man in geek culture saying what needs to be said… just like thousands of women before him.
And he points this out:
"See, we have the platform. We have the voice. We have the male privilege that says male voices have more impact, that we aren’t dismissed as easily. And we need to use it. We have to be the ones who make geek culture a place where this sort of toxic hate and abuse of women is unacceptable. Do not let this behavior go unremarked. Push back against idea that belittling, harassing or abusing women is somehow a masculine virtue, that it’s acceptable because “Internet, lulz” or “guys just being guys”. Marginalize these people. Isolate them. Excise them from the community – we don’t need them, we sure as shit don’t want them.”
Emphasis mine. I always enjoy Dr. NerdLove’s column, and this is no exception.
Fox sketch. Early posting today, because I had to get this out of my head and then stop myself from going any further with it because storyboards need to get done. My reward for getting the board done will be to attempt to paint this digitally instead of making it a drawing that I’ll colour. I really need to teach myself to paint properly.
Wow. Just typing it out has made the task intimidating.
In The Style Of: Chop Chop Avengers. Yesterday’s April Drawing Challenge that I didn’t get a chance to scan.
It’s because I’m working on Chop Chop Ninja (the TV show, not the game) and the style is very amusing to draw. I think I’m going to revisit this sketch later because it’s a fun one.
i actually had this conversation today
That’s it, WE CAN ALL GO HOME NOW. There won’t ever be a better graphic that summarizes sexist double standards in today’s geek culture.
THIS IS OUR CULTURE IN A NUTSHELL.
Funny how this is the content of so many conversations I have with my kids and their friends. At least by talking to kids about being allowed to like what they like and not judging other kids for what they like, they will hopefully grow up being a lot less judgmental and prejudiced, despite what marketing tells them.
For the record, my older son has had to defend his preference for pink on several occasions, while my younger one is defending his choice to grow out his hair. Their words? “Who says it’s for girls?” Who made that decision? Why do we follow it?
Mostly, why does it matter to you what other people like?
I personally believe that if people just enjoyed media regardless of “target audience”, they’d find a lot more fun, enriching interactions with fans of different backgrounds and points of view. Besides, that’s what the best definition of geekdom I’ve found is: “You like this thing I like! Come, let us enjoy it together!” I wish it were always this way.
Everything Men’s Rights Activists label as “female privilege” is really patriarchy backfiring against men.
The gender-specific rule that men shouldn’t hit women is caused by the misogynistic belief that women are fragile.
The belief that men can’t be raped is caused by the belief that men always want sex and the belief that men must always be strong, which are the same gender norms that enable men to sexually harass women.
The belief that all men are rapists is caused by the misogynistic belief that a woman who is quick to trust a man is asking for it.
The belief that statutory rape is worse with an older man and a younger woman than with an older woman and a younger man is caused by the misogynistic belief that society must protect female virginity.
Custody favoring the mother is caused by the misogynistic belief that taking care of the kids is a woman’s job.
The fact that only men can be drafted is caused by the misogynistic belief that women are too weak for combat. Also, most feminists are against the draft.
The belief that the man must pay for the date is caused by the misogynistic belief that women are helpless and need men to do everything for them, and it’s often used as a way to guilt-trip her into having sex.
Feminists don’t support any of those. All of those are caused by patriarchy. Men’s Rights Activists can stop blaming feminists for the problems that patriarchy causes.
Bookmark it, folks!
I think I’ve already reblogged this but I don’t care. Relevant.
This is what I keep saying as a mom raising two boys. I’m a feminist for them, too.